There is surviving Harlem, and then there is knowing Harlem.

They are not the same thing.

Surviving Harlem means knowing which train to take, where to get something good to eat after 10 p.m., how to stretch a dollar, when to walk faster, and which corner you probably should not be standing on while staring at your phone.

Knowing Harlem is different.

Knowing Harlem means understanding that behind the brownstones, storefronts, churches, restaurants, barbershops, galleries, jazz clubs, beauty salons, bodegas, schools, and apartment buildings is a neighborhood with a memory.

A neighborhood that has reinvented itself more times than most people realize.

A neighborhood where somebody’s grandmother still knows everybody.

Where the barber knows your father.

Where the restaurant owner remembers what you ordered three weeks ago.

Where the church isn’t just where you go on Sunday.

And where the woman selling you a dress may know exactly where you should wear it that evening.

This is Harlem.

And if you’re going to live here, visit here, work here, raise children here, build a business here, or simply fall in love with the neighborhood, there are a few things you should know.

RULE NUMBER ONE: DON’T BE A STRANGER IN YOUR OWN NEIGHBORHOOD

Harlem rewards familiarity.

Not the kind where you know every street name.

The kind where you know people.

Learn the names of the people behind the businesses you frequent. Say hello. Ask questions. Become a regular somewhere.

There is something increasingly luxurious about being recognized.

In a city where millions of people can walk past you without ever looking up, someone remembering your name feels almost extravagant.

Buy your coffee from the same place.

Find your favorite restaurant.

Support the bookstore.

Visit the gallery.

Go to the church event even if you aren’t there for Sunday service.

Listen to the local musician.

Attend the neighborhood festival.

Harlem becomes much more beautiful when you stop consuming it and start participating in it.

RULE NUMBER TWO: FOLLOW THE FOOD

Let’s be honest.

Some of the best reasons to leave your apartment involve a plate.

Harlem has long been a destination for food, from soul food and Southern cooking to Caribbean flavors, African cuisine, contemporary Black chefs, bakeries, cafés, bars, and restaurants that are constantly redefining what Harlem dining can look like.

But don’t just ask where the “best” restaurant is.

Ask yourself:

Who owns it?

Who works there?

What story does it tell?

What neighborhood does it support?

Your dinner can be entertainment.

It can also be economic development.

Every time you choose where to spend your money, you’re helping decide what stays open.

That is not a small thing.

RULE NUMBER THREE: GET CULTURED

Harlem has never needed permission to be cultural.

It has been producing culture for generations.

Music. Dance. Theatre. Literature. Fashion. Visual art. Poetry. Film. Faith. Food.

The mistake is thinking culture only happens inside a famous institution.

Sometimes culture is a concert.

Sometimes it is a gallery opening.

Sometimes it is a church program.

Sometimes it is a DJ playing records on a Friday night.

Sometimes it is a young artist performing for 20 people in a tiny room.

Go.

Especially when the room is small.

Because some of the most interesting things happening in Harlem will never have a red carpet.

And honestly?

That may be exactly why you should be there.

RULE NUMBER FOUR: KNOW YOUR HARLEM

Harlem is not one neighborhood experience.

There are different rhythms, different blocks, different communities, different histories.

West Harlem feels different from Central Harlem.

Central Harlem feels different from East Harlem.

And the Harlem you experience on a Sunday afternoon is not necessarily the Harlem you experience after dark.

Walk.

Explore.

Take the train somewhere you’ve never gotten off.

Look up.

Read the plaques.

Visit the businesses you’ve passed a hundred times.

You might discover that the place you thought you knew was actually waiting for you to pay attention.

RULE NUMBER FIVE: SUPPORT THE PEOPLE BUILDING SOMETHING

There is a particular kind of Harlem resident who deserves our attention.

The person building.

The woman opening her first storefront.

The chef trying to keep a restaurant alive.

The artist renting a studio.

The young person starting a business.

The church creating a community program.

The teacher mentoring children.

The organization trying to bring music and arts education into the neighborhood.

The bookstore owner keeping books on the shelves.

The photographer documenting what everyone else overlooks.

These people are not simply “small businesses.”

They are part of the infrastructure of Harlem.

And infrastructure matters.

RULE NUMBER SIX: LEARN HOW TO SPEND YOUR MONEY WITH INTENTION

We talk constantly about supporting Black-owned businesses.

But supporting a business means more than liking an Instagram post.

It means buying something.

Making the reservation.

Getting the haircut.

Ordering the meal.

Buying the book.

Booking the photographer.

Returning when the experience was good.

Telling someone else.

A neighborhood economy is built one transaction at a time.

That is why knowing where to spend your money is a form of power.

And this is where the future of Harlem gets interesting.

Imagine being able to open your phone and immediately discover the Black-owned restaurant five blocks away.

The bookstore around the corner.

The gallery hosting an opening tonight.

The church holding a community event Saturday.

The Black-owned hotel where your friends can stay.

The concert happening next week.

The business you’ve walked past for two years without realizing it was there.

That is the idea behind Mood Map.

Not simply a map.

A way to find one another.

RULE NUMBER SEVEN: MAKE HARLEM PART OF YOUR LIFE

You don’t have to wait for a special occasion.

Go out on Tuesday.

Hear live music on Wednesday.

Try a new restaurant on Thursday.

Visit an exhibition on Friday.

Take yourself somewhere beautiful on Saturday.

Go to church Sunday.

Bring your children.

Bring your friends.

Bring somebody who has never been to Harlem.

The neighborhood becomes what we make of it.

And perhaps that is the greatest secret of surviving Harlem.

You have to actually live here.

SO, ARE YOU SURVIVING HARLEM?

Maybe surviving isn’t really the goal.

Maybe the goal is to know where you are.

To know your neighbors.

To know your history.

To know your businesses.

To know your artists.

To know your churches.

To know your food.

To know your streets.

To know where the music is.

To know where the community gathers.

To know where your dollar can make a difference.

Because when you know your neighborhood, you stop moving through it like a stranger.

You become part of its story.

And Harlem has always been a story worth being part of.

So put down the phone.

Get dressed.

Walk outside.

Find somewhere you’ve never been.

Order something you’ve never tried.

Talk to somebody.

Stay a little longer.

And if someone asks you what you’re doing, tell them:

I’m getting to know Harlem.

QUESTION OF THE DAY

What is one Harlem place, business, restaurant, cultural institution, or neighborhood tradition that everyone should experience at least once?

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